So I told y’all I would give an update on how things went with what I learned at my mini-seminar. I’m glad to say that things have been going really well (at home at least).
Using the stern tone with the options let’s my son create his own outcome. Of course, he tends to choose well most of the time. We have stopped the “time outs” and use the “calm down” spot, which he chose as his room. We haven’t had to make a calm down spot when out because he has been behaving very well. When he does go to his room, he will stay in there for a few minutes and come out and say “I’m done crying” or “I’m done being bad.” We have to prompt him to apologize sometimes, but for the most part, he does it on his own.
Of course he will still throw a tantrum now and then, he’s 3 1/2, BUT my husband and I have seen a great improvement. From all parties, in fact. I have noticed that I am much more calm when disciplining my son. I no longer yell, or tell him to go straight to his room, or even get angry when he wants to do things by himself.I have my sanity back (in that department anyway).
It takes some getting used to, but I highly recommend trying this out if you are having difficulties with your strong-willed child. Please just keep in mind, that not all children are built the same so what works for one, may not work for the other.