I recently attended my husband’s cousin’s wedding in Colorado. It took place at Arrowhead Golf Club, which if you have never been to, you need to put that on your bucket list. The backdrop for the ceremony was breathtaking and the ceremony itself was heartwarming.
I love weddings and I always cry, even if I don’t know the bride or groom that well. It just makes me so happy to see two people who are so in love and who are setting out on this new journey together. As I was listening to the vows though, I realized how important weddings really are. Not for the bride and groom, but for the guests – especially the married couples.
We all know about the honeymoon phase and how it ends so quickly. Throw in a couple of jobs, a house note, some other bills, and children and the romance could find its way into a dark, cold, corner of the closet. It’s hard to remember to show how much we love and appreciate our spouse, but I think weddings help us to remember.
The most well-known, and general, part of the vows
“I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.”
Couples forget this; I know I have on occasion. When I’m upset because my husband did something stupid or when he’s whining because he has a common cold, I tend to think too much about how I feel. I have been making a conscience effort to stop and think about what I’m about to say, do, or even think. I do love my husband when he does stupid things and I do love him when he is acting like he’s dying from the Ebola virus. I make sure to let him know this. I want him to know, and more importantly remember, that I will love him no matter what.
Although weddings can be great fun, especially the receptions, we need to remember what the whole event is about. Weddings should be treated as a refresher course to those couples who have been married and maybe forgotten what the honeymoon phase felt like.